a/Political Friendships

onetoc:

Hi all. Apologies for the absence—work has taken priority over the last few weeks. Lately, I’ve found that I spend almost 12 hours of my day at school and with very few personal and status rewards. 

Thank you to everyone who has listened me to guest on hyphenated-lives’ fantastic podcast. I appreciate every bit of support and am glad that people listen. They are great! 

Recently, though, because I am rarely in romantic relationships, I defer thoughts to my friendships, which are few but deeply valued. Until the last few years, I found that I could make friends anywhere but since getting it, I’ve stopped looking in my workplace. The work place dictates a specific set of performance, I think. And it makes me wonder that if I should check my activism and my beliefs at the door. Should I keep my head down and deal with the emotional backlash later? Should I just follow the generally conservative culture of my school just to survive? Or do I become a cyborg? 

In my class, I shared an article that mentioned cyborg lives, which resulted in great conversations with the kids. Sometimes, I do love the kids and their openness and naivate. For those who don’t know, cyborgs are people who reconfigure society’s negative/detrimental-to-life labels of them and become this hybrid machine/human. Reframing labels and negativity to survive. I don’t think that life should be glorified because it implies a certain degree of complicity but it is something that happens. I want to be all human all the time. The dream.  

At work, I’m feisty to say the least. In graduate school, one of my professors called me feisty. Needless to say, I think it’s apt because I am angry at all times. I guess it’s a lifestyle. 

Just to give some context, at my school, among young faculty, there are very few social experiences to choose from. It’s limited pretty much to basic white people and their very problematic approach to life. I cringe whenever conversations turn to issues of diversity. I.E. once, a teacher mentioned her love of deaf culture and proudly announced how she learned sign language in college. I just—couldn’t function. I sat there stunned. I remembered the trauma of being in my study abroad program and how I felt completely essentialized and defined by white people’s definitions of asian-ness. Other poc teachers, on the other hand, simply overlooked the intersectionality, as usual…all intersectionality. 

This is the part that bothers me. Are they being cyborgs? I don’t think so; I think they are self policing. And their self-policing annoys me but that’s not my call. What really gets me is when the policing spills over and affects me. Being attacked for using profanity (by poc teachers) when white teachers use profanity freely without comment from them strikes me as largely unequal and I’m not for that life.

I’ve been told that  I make the white teachers uncomfortable and I should cease with profanity. Well, when white teachers talk about the legitimacy of blackface that makes me uncomfortable. When they praise racist white male students who have targeted me without reservation, they don’t get shit. Then, I forget, my opinions don’t matter. My comfort level doesn’t matter. It’s implied that I need to shut my mouth and my thoughts for the “greater good” which is code for ….I don’t even need to say.

Great post on a/political friendships from Shirley, who was an amazing guest on our episode “The Politics of Dating White People (as a POC)

Hyphenated 1 Year Anniversary- Ideas?

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owning-my-truth:

hyphenated-lives:

H* #36: The Politics of Dating White People (as a POC) (feat. Shirley)

There’s this pervasive cultural narrative that deliberately and consciously aims to depoliticize love (e.g. the cries of “Love is love!” and “But love is pure!”)—it could even be called a national project in this age of “color blindness”. The implications of this are far and disturbing. Love is not just love, and who we choose to love is tied into systems of domination like white supremacy and patriarchy. Love, whether we like it or not, is incredibly political, especially when we (as POC) date white people. In this week’s podcast we dive in to discuss these messy racial dating politics of dating white people as a POC. 

We are joined for this discussion by Chuk’s friend Shirley (onetoc on tumblr), and we also discuss for short news at the beginning: #FergusonOctober, Vonderrit Myers, Gay Marriage and “How To Get Away With Murder”

Music: IntroClosing

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This week’s podcast is now out!

"Love is not just love."

"LOVE IS NOT JUST LOVE."

"Who we choose to love is political."

"WHO WE CHOOSE TO LOVE IS POLITICAL."

Amen and amen.

DEFINITELY RECOMMEND THIS IS SO WELL SAID!

H* #36: The Politics of Dating White People (as a POC) (feat. Shirley)

There’s this pervasive cultural narrative that deliberately and consciously aims to depoliticize love (e.g. the cries of “Love is love!” and “But love is pure!”)—it could even be called a national project in this age of “color blindness”. The implications of this are far and disturbing. Love is not just love, and who we choose to love is tied into systems of domination like white supremacy and patriarchy. Love, whether we like it or not, is incredibly political, especially when we (as POC) date white people. In this week’s podcast we dive in to discuss these messy racial dating politics of dating white people as a POC. 

We are joined for this discussion by Chuk’s friend Shirley (onetoc on tumblr), and we also discuss for short news at the beginning: #FergusonOctober, Vonderrit Myers, Gay Marriage and “How To Get Away With Murder”

Music: IntroClosing

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We recorded a really interesting podcast on “The Politics of Dating White People (as a POC)” with a special guest. Look for it in the next day or so! :)

Kari is having internet problems, this weeks podcast will be delayed. Sorry!

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HYPHENATED* Podcast Monthly Recap
HYPHENATED* is a weekly social justice podcast by  Chuks (owning-my-truth) and Kari (heauxchinoise). If you missed any of the episodes from the past few weeks you can find them below, thanks again for the support everyone!
H* #31: The Problematics of the Occupy Movement & Moving the Class Discussion Forward (feat. Ryan)
H* #32: Code Switching & Talking to White People (feat. Lucy)
H* #33: Ableism & the “Ice Bucket Challenge”
H* #34: Being a Feminist Killjoy
H* #35: Decolonial Love (feat. John & Khadi)
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HYPHENATED* Podcast Monthly Recap

HYPHENATED* is a weekly social justice podcast by  Chuks (owning-my-truth) and Kari (heauxchinoise). If you missed any of the episodes from the past few weeks you can find them below, thanks again for the support everyone!

H* #31: The Problematics of the Occupy Movement & Moving the Class Discussion Forward (feat. Ryan)

H* #32: Code Switching & Talking to White People (feat. Lucy)

H* #33: Ableism & the “Ice Bucket Challenge”

H* #34: Being a Feminist Killjoy

H* #35: Decolonial Love (feat. John & Khadi)

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HYPHENATED* Podcast Monthly Recap
HYPHENATED* is a weekly social justice podcast by  Chuks (owning-my-truth) and Kari (heauxchinoise). If you missed any of the episodes from the past few weeks you can find them below, thanks again for the support everyone!
H* #31: The Problematics of the Occupy Movement & Moving the Class Discussion Forward (feat. Ryan)
H* #32: Code Switching & Talking to White People (feat. Lucy)
H* #33: Ableism & the “Ice Bucket Challenge”
H* #34: Being a Feminist Killjoy
H* #35: Decolonial Love (feat. John & Khadi)
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HYPHENATED* Podcast Monthly Recap

HYPHENATED* is a weekly social justice podcast by  Chuks (owning-my-truth) and Kari (heauxchinoise). If you missed any of the episodes from the past few weeks you can find them below, thanks again for the support everyone!

H* #31: The Problematics of the Occupy Movement & Moving the Class Discussion Forward (feat. Ryan)

H* #32: Code Switching & Talking to White People (feat. Lucy)

H* #33: Ableism & the “Ice Bucket Challenge”

H* #34: Being a Feminist Killjoy

H* #35: Decolonial Love (feat. John & Khadi)

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Evolution.

heauxchinoise:

I’ve gotten a lot of feedback in recent weeks about the way I speak, especially onhyphenated-lives. I thought I would take the time to address it and to ask about how to move forward.

My relationship with the spoken tongue is at best difficult. No tongue is mine. I do not speak Mandarin or Shanghainese to full fluency, so I can not express myself in those languages. Other Chinese people tease me about my accents in those languages. Not a standard Mandarin accent, not a Shanghainese accent, not a rural Yunnan accent, not an ABC accent…your accent is confusing and confused, they tell me as they laugh (at me).

English is painful. A tongue that will never be mine and one that will always be perpetually foreign to me, no matter how I speak it, because of my face. Growing up, I was careful to mimic the wealthy white girls I went to school with in the wealthy Northeast. The few times my classmates caught me mimicking my parents’ broken English or the sounds of the South where I had spent my early childhood or my friends’ tones perfected in inner city walls, I was mercilessly teased. So, I learned to mimic the right people. When I started social justice work, I was asked why I sounded like wealthy white people. Could I really be one of us when I sounded like one of them? So yet again, I changed the way I spoke and mimicked the right people: I pronounced “Latino” and “diaspora” and names the way I learned them, with a Spanish accent, and I relearned the AAVE I had so carefully bleached from my mouth years ago.

Now, in Australia, people take keen interest in my heritage. Your accent—where are you from? Of course you’re from the States…where is your heritage from? Were you born in China or America? Some people, even though I repeatedly tell them that I was born and raised in the States, still ask me how I perfected my American accent. Because the way I speak will never be what people think should be the way I speak. I will never sound the way people think I should sound when they see my face.

Is it such a surprise then that with no tongue as mine, for so long I was silent about the pain and injustices I and my people faced? I now occupy a weird space: a queer Chinese-American girl who managed to fulfill her parents’ immigrant dreams and crawled into some of society’s most elite echelons. So what tongue is befitting for me now?

hyphenated-lives:

H* #35: Decolonial Love (feat. John & Khadi)

"We are never going to get anywhere as long as our economies of attraction continue to resemble, more or less, the economies of attraction of white supremacy." Junot Diaz

In this episode, Kari and Chuks joined by two special guests- John (ninjaruski) & Khadi (rococobutter), use this Junot Diaz quote as a jumping off point to discuss decolonial love. We also discuss US imperialism, ISIS and Emma Watson’s “feminist” speech and answer a question about AAVE appropriation and boundary policing.

Music: IntroClosing

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